Sunday, December 7, 2014

Are Men giving up on Women? And why am I afraid to say certain words?

Even though for the past few moments, being one who keeps looking into the darkness that is to come. I find myself always drawn to true beauty. A word that is so thrown around today and so under used. Yet it is a word that I find, I am afraid to use.

An article was published last week that my friend shared on Facebook. And while I was reading said article, here, Why does it seem that one person telling a women that she is a beautiful women have more meaning or less meaning than that of anyone else telling them. Now I know that there will always be the notion of the fact that the person who says the statement will obviously have a meaning behind the fact that they made the statement to begin with. But why does lead to people not wanting to say anything at all? In the article you can clearly see the person states the fact that in today's world we have this idea that, ""Teenage boys always have been useless with girls, but there's definitely a fear that now being well-intentioned isn't enough, and you can get into trouble just for being clumsy," he says. "For example, leaning in for a kiss might see you branded a creep, rather than just inept."

Listening to friends talk about people who have shown interest in them, I keep hearing the same things, "Oh he is a creep, he keeps stopping by to see me." "He is so weird, he kind of creeps me out." The problem here is these young men are just trying to find what we are programmed to do, society teaches us at such an early stage of life that we are suppose to get out of school and find that special someone to live our life with. But here we are, not wanting to get that label from the people whom we could potentially want to date, so we tend to keep quiet about how we feel towards certain people.

The result as put in the article? "A lot of nice but awkward young men are opting out of approaching women because there is no opportunity for them to make mistakes without suffering worse embarrassment than ever."

Now to be clear, I think everyone should have equal treatment, but even then equal treatment in a way can never really happen. I think it would be impossible for there to be a world in which everyone was treat equally with EVERYTHING. Think about that for a moment. Still thinking? I hope so. Did you see what I meant by that? No? Well for everything to be equal then that means all parts must be equal too. Same amount of brain cells, same amount of daily fuel, food, light, sleep. Basically to be fully equal along the entire board we would have to be robots/machines. But here lies the problem, we are not the machines. We ARE the ghosts in the machines.

Saying that, how can we ever then find true equality with out these consequences. I find that as the human species has progressed from where we were to where we are now, many things have changed over time, and this too will be something that causes change.


So this come true and more and more men are not out in the chase, I feel as though this is where a few things happen. Nice guys finish last, the ideal of the friendzone. Gender unfortunately plays a key point to this all. We are now in this generation where more females make more choices, which is honestly a really great thing, this is leading to a future where hopefully more people are able to find happiness.  But as Milo points out at the very start of his article, "My generation of boys is f**ked," says Rupert, a young German video game enthusiast I've been getting to know over the past few months. "Marriage is dead."

So, as I said, I may not agree with everything this article has to say. But a lot of it hit pretty close to home. Take a read as some of the comments that people posted on the article as well. Some of them yes are a little over the top, but other I feel see the same things Mile is writing about.