Though of the day...October 27, 2011

It's more about finding someone who wants to spend time with you, who wants to get to know you just as much as you want to know them. Finding that person who smiles at you, and you can't do anything but smile back. Who, when they have a bad day, you are the one who cheers them up and makes them smile. Who sits with you when you're sad yourself and listens to you while you explain your worries and fears. Who then also comforts those fears, know that you are in it together.


But what is the definition of 'finding' them. Should we expect them to just fall from the sky? Appear out of nowhere. How can you tell when you should take the chance and tell them, that you care for them, in a little more that just a normal friendship way? You have to say something to them. You need let them know, which is obviously hard to do at times. Especially when you lack the courage to tell them.


For those of you who are currently with someone, how did your relationship start, who made the first metaphoric 'move'? What was it that made you know you wanted to take the chance, was it the smile, the laugh, the conversations? A friend told me today, that great friendships are hard to come by. And I couldn't agree more. But I also think that great relationships are also based on those great friendships, and they make it all work out so much more in the end.


Honestly I think that once it is known that one person wants to take it to the next stage, and the other party member finds out, then a few obvious things can happen. They feel the same way, they don't and make it awkward to be friends still,or you see that it not that way and just continue on, I mean really. It's just words, they don't really hurt anyways.


If you already know the person good enough to call them your friend, then when the spark hits, and you start to see them in a different light, I think it is kind of obvious then, that you will want to add the prefix to the term friend. Does it always happen this way, no, it shouldn't. If it did then we wouldn't worry so much about it for those of us who do.


But if you don't try, then you could loose out on something that is amazing, something that you finally see the world as a whole, and complete.


Good friendships are hard to come by, but the person who you want to spend your life with is one out of all of those friendships...and you say I should let it pass?


Until next time, A moment of time.
~S.J.