It seems to me that people today are more interested in material things more and more than ever. Don't get me wrong I like my stuff just as much as the next person, but when it comes to people and love, and wanting material matters, and I find it rather odd in how a woman thinks about her potential partner with this in mind.
I had a conversation the other day with a friend, and she gave me the idea that a women, while looking for a partner, looks also for what that partner can give them. And I got really confused by this, and maybe this is that hopeless romantic in me, but I just cannot see how love, that is going to last can have that notion in the equation at all.
I really have to say that at times I envy people who are blind, especially those who are born with it. while yes it is sad that they cannot experience the same things that a person of sight does, however, they get the chance to actually see the world with out a bias of anything visual. They get to make choices based upon what I think should really matter, who the person really is, not what they have or what they look like, what love should be based on.
Maybe I am wrong, who knows. It could be different for everyone. But I think that finding a person who you will say that you really do love, is not going to be someone who you try to find, and the love that the two will have will be more strong if it is not based on some concept of material gains.
I have two friends who, really do love each other, and they both found each other in a way that I find to be a really good story. But I feel that their love for each other is a really strong bond. Because of the fact that while they were both heading in the right direction, they both are standard people, in the fact that neither had a lot to offer the other, other than the companionship that they have. Don't get me wrong they are both wonderful people, I am not trying to lower their value as people, but in the case of love and how I feel it should be, they are a perfect example to what I am trying to say.
What are your thoughts about all of this, what is it about people and what they think is really love? Are you going to love someone because of what they can give you or because of what they have? Does it have to be materialistic, does it have to be something that you have to be able to hold. I don't think that love is that way, I don't think you have to have some item to know what it takes for them to say they love you, it is an emotional attachment to they themselves, not what they get or give you in a material thing.
To say that you will pick a person who can give you the most, is like saying that you don't really understand love yet. You don't have the real notion for what it is meant to be. I feel that you still have a lot to learn and a lot to think about.
Until next time, a moment of time.
~S.J.
I had a conversation the other day with a friend, and she gave me the idea that a women, while looking for a partner, looks also for what that partner can give them. And I got really confused by this, and maybe this is that hopeless romantic in me, but I just cannot see how love, that is going to last can have that notion in the equation at all.
I really have to say that at times I envy people who are blind, especially those who are born with it. while yes it is sad that they cannot experience the same things that a person of sight does, however, they get the chance to actually see the world with out a bias of anything visual. They get to make choices based upon what I think should really matter, who the person really is, not what they have or what they look like, what love should be based on.
Maybe I am wrong, who knows. It could be different for everyone. But I think that finding a person who you will say that you really do love, is not going to be someone who you try to find, and the love that the two will have will be more strong if it is not based on some concept of material gains.
I have two friends who, really do love each other, and they both found each other in a way that I find to be a really good story. But I feel that their love for each other is a really strong bond. Because of the fact that while they were both heading in the right direction, they both are standard people, in the fact that neither had a lot to offer the other, other than the companionship that they have. Don't get me wrong they are both wonderful people, I am not trying to lower their value as people, but in the case of love and how I feel it should be, they are a perfect example to what I am trying to say.
What are your thoughts about all of this, what is it about people and what they think is really love? Are you going to love someone because of what they can give you or because of what they have? Does it have to be materialistic, does it have to be something that you have to be able to hold. I don't think that love is that way, I don't think you have to have some item to know what it takes for them to say they love you, it is an emotional attachment to they themselves, not what they get or give you in a material thing.
To say that you will pick a person who can give you the most, is like saying that you don't really understand love yet. You don't have the real notion for what it is meant to be. I feel that you still have a lot to learn and a lot to think about.
Until next time, a moment of time.
~S.J.
I completely agree with you. Relationships based on physical possessions isn't loving the person you're in the relationship with, it is loving the thing. If that thing goes away, then what do you have? I understand that people want security. But in order for the relationship to last for the long haul, the emotional connection must be strong, or that person is saying, "We're good for now, but if the sailing gets rough, I'm outta here." All people have different criteria for happiness in a relationship. However, the ones who are happiest are the ones who need nothing more than what they have in the other person. I can think of no other way to survive 12 years of marriage. But, hey; that's just me.
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